SELF TALK w/

Ashade

founder of SLASH 

A friend told me I should do lashes - I like a project so I did the course and started doing it mobile. But being mobile in London was counterproductive, I was spending more time in the car than doing appointments. One day I drove past a shop and was like ‘ooh okay’ and my curiosity took over. I saw the rent and realised I could actually afford it… my brain started whirling. A couple of weeks later, I had a shop but not enough money - I had to beg and borrow from friends and family just to get my through my first quarter. I was by myself in the shop, 6 days a week, sometimes finishing at 10pm because I didn’t want to turn anyone away. Our client base grew very quickly and I became fully booked from the beginning of the first month, so I knew I had to get help. I got an apprentice the February after I opened in August and once I started getting staff onboard, it started to really come together. I always wanted a salon I would feel comfortable to walk into, sometimes the beauty industry can be a bit snobby and people can make you feel intimidated when getting a treatment. I never want any of my clients to feel that way. Any race, any age, there are even some 70 year old ladies that come to get their lashes done! We don’t discriminate because everyone wants to feel good and I want everyone to feel good in our spaces.

I still haven’t found one, even this week I said I’ve had enough of feeling anxious and down. So every morning at 6am I play gospel house, have a shower then start working, so at least by 8 o’clock I feel better for the day. I neglected my own needs for this business for years but it became clear that if I’m not in the best place myself I can’t be the best leader for my team. I’m trying to find that balance to stay motivated, passionate and also have fun even when it gets hard. You have to just enjoy every experience and be grateful for what it teaches you. If you’re positive and happy you just attract more blessings, if you’re negative you just attract more problems. I can be quite introverted so I had to assess, why do I feel uncomfortable in certain social situations? Is it just my personality? I realised that I’m my own harshest critic and I’ve had to learn how to speak positively about myself.  Before, I would struggle, if you asked me 5 positive things I would have said I’m tall...But now I make a conscious effort to positively affirm myself as often as I can. I’ve had to learn, it’s like a journey finding love for yourself. My friend told me you have to find peace within yourself at home, it can’t be in another person, or on a holiday or in a situation. You need to be able to centre yourself and find it within

© The Note To Self